There are a lot of sentimental posts today thanking moms for being the best! While it is not a competition, I would like to share why Pam was, and in many ways, continues to be the most amazing mom I have ever seen. The question of what kind of mother would Pam be for my kids was the farthest thing from my mind when I first met here. It shouldn’t have been. We decided to wait 5 years to start having kids so that we could get to know each other better and build a foundation. Then one day the test came back positive, we were parents.
Molli was the first one to come along. With all of the excitement of the first child coupled with Molli being an easy baby, everything seemed pretty normal. But I took for granted what was happening even in those first hours. Molli had jaundice and couldn’t come home from the hospital. I will never forget the arguments Pam had with the nursing staff. Eventually they made an accommodation for Pam to stay in the nursing station area and sleep in a chair. Pam was NOT leaving the hospital without her baby. Pam had a mothering instinct that was powerfully strong.
Before Pam was ever pregnant we decided that we would live a life style that could be supported on my income alone even though she earned more in carpet sales than I was making at the time. We wanted her to be home with the kids.
From the first days at home, Pam would play with Molli, talk to her, rock her to sleep, let her cry herself to sleep when that’s what was best for Molli. Pam would read the Bible to her and sing her songs. There was never a doubt how much mommy loved Molli. Mothering seemed to come naturally for Pam.
Fast forward, two more kids, Houston and Aimee. Crazy life, chaos, struggles & change, and yet through it all was this amazing mom. As the kids grew, they knew they couldn’t get away with anything, she asked the most direct and uncomfortable questions you can think of, and don’t think about trying to lie. She was always talking about the Bible and God. Pam would lay in bed with them at night and talk to them about their lives and laugh and cry and sing. She entered into their world in a very special way. When she threw a birthday party, it was planned from a kid’s point of view. She always sought to understand what the kids were thinking and feeling so she could approach them from where they were. Our home was filled with Christian music and Veggie Tales. She taught them truth and lived Jesus in front of them.
Pam was the most joyful person, genuinely joyful person most of us have ever encountered. Her joy flowed out of a heart of gratefulness to God for her salvation and childlike faith in God’s sovereignty. Because of the genuineness and strength of her faith she was happy and joyful even when life wasn’t. That was the world our kids grew up in. It seemed normal to have a fun, happy, joyful, silly mom. It seemed normal to have gratefulness deep in your soul. It seemed normal to accept both the good and the bad and turn and praise Jesus.
Pam left her babies a little over three years ago, but she will never really leave her babies. Most of us worry about the bad traits in our parents coming out in us. I get to see Pam coming out in my kids every day, it might be a look or a mannerism or a laugh. I love it when that happens. What a tremendous example of a Godly mother and woman Pam was. Even in the end she was mothering her kids through the most unthinkable hardship, saying goodbye. Because of her childlike faith and unshakeable trust, she led them through those months and laughed and joked to the end. She made sure that they knew Jesus and they would be together again. Pam’s kids are happy, joyful, they love Jesus and they put up with me. That is why I can say with confidence that Pam was and is the most amazing example of a Godly mother I have ever seen. I miss her terribly everyday but am unfathomably grateful to God for the gift of Pam and for her legacy, Molli, Houston and Aimee.